If you have a boyfriend who cheats and lies, it's not a good relationship to be in and it's time to make a decision about where to head next. This article will help you to work through dealing with a lying boyfriend.
1) Become aware that you're being lied to. If you're too busy making up excuses and denying that your boyfriend is lying to you, you're delaying the inevitable. Signs you're being lied to include:
Not keeping dates with you and making up bizarre excuses, changing stories all the time, giving you inconsistent details, making mates act as alibis only to have them muck up, Getting flustered when you call or bump into him.
2) Be wary of a guy who tells you he loves you after only seeing one another for a week or two. Be really cautious - perhaps he's after sex, money, or your personal belongings. Take it with a grain of salt until you know each other a lot better.
3) Make a decision about what you're going to do. If you're satisfied that he is lying, dealing with this situation so that you're not harmed is priority number one. Consider your options:
Confronting him - use facts, not emotions, to provide evidence that you're aware of his lying
Be ready to make a decision to end the relationship. If you aren't sure, he will likely take advantage of your uncertainty to continue lying and using you.
Ask for a change of attitude only if you're prepared to accept that this may be unsuccessful and you'll still need to end things.
4) Avoid taking it personally. You are not responsible for another person's lies and lying behavior. If he tries to claim that it's things that you do that make him lie, don't fall for it or take it on board - your behavior is not a cause of someone else's personal choice to lie.
5) If you find out they've been lying to you all along, then it's best to just break up with them. What's worth keeping a lie alive for all that time wasted.
Don't seek revenge. He may have betrayed you, but it's not worth the time or efforts to keep on thinking about it.
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